I often begin a column or blog not with an idea, but with a title. I don’t know where the titles come from. They just appear on the […]
Suffering Is Not “Optional”
Ironically, it has been those who have grieved that have not given me advice on how to get through it. A lovely and sensitive woman I met through […]
An Apology From The Abyss
I have never grieved before. I pray never to grieve again. I have been sad before. Death of friends and family and my dogs who all loved me […]
The Positive Thinking Racket
I don’t know when the relentless optimism ethic took over the world but it needs to stop. Maybe it first got traction with “How To Win Friends And […]
So, What Was So Special About Her?
I’ve written a lot, perhaps too much, about the grief that has devastated me since the death of my love, Lorena. This will be the last on this […]
With No Place To Go
It’s strange to wake up alone. Even stranger to wake up alone in a big house with only my two dogs, Milo and Kira, sleeping soundly on their […]
Lesson From A Love Lost
If you read this blog regularly, you may be tired of hearing about my grief. I am tired of living it. The waves of pain and overwhelming sadness […]
I Will Never Say “Goodbye”
“Life changes in an instant. The ordinary instant.” – Joan Didion I talk to my deceased lover, Lorena, everyday. Usually as I look at a photo of her […]
I Can’t Remember My Last Words
I lost the woman I loved one month ago today and I can’t remember my last words to her while she was still conscious. I believe they were, […]
You Know Pain When You See It
Readers of Slouching Into Oblivion know that my love, Lorena Alcala, died from complications of leukemia three weeks ago. I have been a mess. Totally broken. To those […]